There is no absolute right or wrong, good or bad about life, life is simply a neutral process in which we awaken to who we really are through experiencing, accepting and surrendering to what is. Only when you let go of your deep-seated notions about what is, awakening can finally take place.
None of your suffering is originated from factors outside of you, you literally create your suffering by your thoughts in response to what happened. In other words, you did not suffer as a direct result of something happened to you, you suffered simply because you THOUGHT you suffered for the reason you believed. When you realize that suffering are simply some incessant thoughts that you keep hanging on to, suffering no longer survives when you consciously choose to let go of those thoughts.
Ask yourself, what positive qualities you can learn from your negative life situations? For instance, forgiveness, patience, optimism, positivity, humor, letting go, self-love, giving, partnership, caring, emotion release etc. Treat the negative experiences as your teachers, you will find it easier to accept the adverse situation with open arms even when such persists.
The truth is, the more you can respond positively to negativity, the less you will experience life situations that you previously labelled as negative.
If you want more money, cause others to make more money.
If you want more love, cause others to feel your love.
If you want to become a person of wisdom, cause someone else to have wisdom.
If you want to become more healthy, take better care of other’s health and do nothing to harm other lives on purpose.
If I have not mentioned exactly the things that you want, I believe you already know now how to get it.